The Silence Between Us – What we’re missing in the #MeToo/#GamAni Movement

January 30, 2020

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By Rabbi Andy Kastner, ’10

At a recent committee meeting, the topic of pregnancy came up. It was shared that a community member was expecting another child. A few men in the room were the first (and only) to comment on this news.

“Wow,” one exclaimed, breaking the ice.

“My, she is certainly fertile,” quipped another.

And then a third, with more of a strategic assessment, noted with sincerity, “She’s doing the best thing right now for the Jewish people. Seriously, it’s what the Jewish people need most,” implying that ‘success’ in ensuring Jewish vitality is all about market share.

I felt myself mentally gulp. There was silence, and then we moved on with the agenda.


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